memories are for fading and not for fighting over.

Memories are made to fade. And to be fought over.  

           Photography - the Mirror with a Memory . Memory that vanishes even as you move on.

        And move you should. Retain too many memories for too long and they become dangerous.



Many of the great political crimes of recent history were committed in the name of memory.

But what really interests me ultimately is not to record the past, so much as how people live with the past and get on with it. There’s a kind of fetishization of memory in our culture. Some of it comes from the experience and the memorial culture of the Holocaust—the injunction to remember. And it also comes from the strange collision of Freud and human rights thinking—the belief that anything that is not exposed and addressed and dealt with is festering and going to come back to destroy you. This is obviously not true. Memory is not such a cure-all. On the contrary, many of the great political crimes of recent history were committed in large part in the name of memory. 

http://www.bostonreview.net/BR37.5/philip_gourevitch_narrative_human_rights_rwanda_syria.php